The Battle

There is an unsaid standard for everything, its begins the moment you say hello; from that moment on the person you with is deciding, what you mean by your tone of voice, do they like your hair?, what kind of a mood are you in?, will you be in or out of their close circle?, what kind of parent, spouse, social standing, political point of view, type A or B, religious or non?......the list goes on and on. We wish is wasn't true, but it is. Even the nicest person in the world is making decision and judgments based on the things they value.
Since we all enjoy being included, valued, approved of, liked and appreciated, it makes those moments even more important to us.
So the battle begins;
I say something,
you decide if you agree or disagree.
you reply based on your feelings and personality type (confrontational or passive)
I read your body language and tone and feel misunderstood.
I explain what I meant.
You feel defensive because I feel misunderstood, however
You smile when you answer so as not to sound argumentative, now you feel misunderstood.
The subject could be anything, but the battle to be known, included and understood goes on.
This is what makes it so difficult for us to go against the grain, and do things differently.
The world around us has a system for change, it's the way things are done.
The problem is; its not working. People are fighting to be rid of habits that have become the friend they so desperately need, that easy place we can go when we feel misunderstood.
We need an answer to both problems; how to change, and how to fill the void that sent us in search in the first place.
God's system is so dramatically different it seems simplistic; others wont understand, people will make fun of you, you will be often alone in your decision, but you will find everything you are looking for along with others a few new friends who had been searching as well, they may be a little quirky, but they get you.